It’s hard enough to be successful and work your way up in your career. Now imagine you do everything right and outperform all your colleagues and you are still somehow overlooked for that open position. What’s that about?!
When managers and top executives play favorites, the effects can be detrimental, not just to more deserving employees but to the entire organization. Although favoritism is quite common, the signs can be hard to identify and it can be even harder to unmask the true reason behind the unfair treatment.
What is favoritism?
A basic definition of favoritism is when a manager or boss gives more opportunities or benefits to one employee over others for reasons other than skill and performance. Sometimes the employer’s actions are unintentional and the favoritism happens subconsciously, after all it is natural to prefer one person over another. Nepotism is a form of favoritism, for example.
Whether, employers intend to play favorites or not, it creates an uncomfortable work atmosphere. If employees feel they will not receive well-deserved promotions or opportunities in exchange for hard work, they will be discouraged from exerting maximum effort. Lack of effort combined with unqualified employees moving up within the company leads to an overall unproductive and self-destructive work environment.
If you are unsure if what you are seeing within your company is favoritism here are a couple of subtle signs.
What favoritism in the workplace looks like
Keep in mind that it’s on the boss or manager to not play favorites. Sure, there are brown-nosers that reap the benefits of sucking up, but the recipient of the favoritism may not want the attention at all. When other employees start to catch on to their coworker’s increased opportunities and special treatment, resentment begins to rise, even if said employee did nothing to encourage the behavior.
Is favoritism legal? Can my boss get away with this?
Showing favoritism in the workplace is completely legal, unless the employer is discriminating against individuals on the grounds of a protected status, like race, age, sexual orientation, color, religion, ability, national origin, or gender. Federal laws like Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964, the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA), the Age Discrimination in Employment Act, and the Pregnancy Discrimination Act protect employees from discrimination like this.
It is also illegal for employers to retaliate against employees who file a charge with a government agency, file a lawsuit, or make an internal complaint. This is known as employer retaliation and more than one third of the discrimination charges filed with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) in the past few years include a retaliation claim.
Let’s say a new position has opened up and it’s time for your boss to promote one of their employees. After review they chooses your colleague because they went to high school together and now play in the same softball league after work. While unfair, this is technically(and it’s known as nepotism).
Now imagine you just found out you’re pregnant. If your boss decides to play favorites and promote your male colleague over you because of your pregnancy, that is (and it’s called pregnancy discrimination).
What to do when you see favoritism at work
It is hard to know what approach to take when you find yourself in this situation. Here are some basic tips to help level the playing field:
What to do if you’re the recipient of workplace favoritism
If your boss is playing favorites with you and you’re starting to feel the heat, there are a couple of options to try:
- You can address the problem head-on. You might say:
- Let your boss know you have a lot on your plate and suggest another colleague to take over the new assignment:
Throughout the situation it is important to remain positive and continue to work hard. Bad-mouthing your employer or slacking will not help to achieve the results you want.
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